Personality and Personal Projects
September is back-to-school time. Whether or not you or your loved ones are in school, this month seems to be the time of self-reflection. We often want to know “what are we” and “where are we” – two very plain yet very complex questions. Fortunately, there is a different way to get a glimpse of our personality – through what Dr. Brian R. Little called “personal projects”.
The rationale behind the “personal projects” concept is straightforward – we only spend time doing things that we think are important to us. Activities we commit to do regularly is a reflection of our values and what we hope to achieve in the future. How these personal projects evolve over time will also have a great influence on our view of the world around us.
You can read about Dr. Little’s “personal projects” research and his TED talk here: https://ideas.ted.com/how-our-projects-shape-our-personalities-and-how-we-can-use-them-to-remake-who-we-are/
One way to get to know about your “personal projects” is to track how you spend most of your time on – both professionally and personally. More often than not there is a common theme behind all the things that you do.
And if you don’t like what you see – it’s OK!! Knowing where we are allows us to be more conscious in choices we make. It’s never too late to make a change.
Networking events for introverts
Being an entrepreneur, “network, network, and network some more” is probably the most frequent advice given. Sure, networking is the most effective way to keep us up-to-date on industry trends, create opportunities, and expand our resources in general. Networking events, however, are very daunting to some of us who consider ourselves to be introverts. A business occasion held in a casual setting - you are standing in a crowd of people, most of them are strangers. You are trying to convince yourself to approach the crowd and say… just say something. You notice some people in the room are particularly loud and overwhelming to your taste, but you tell yourself you need to participate because the reason for you to come to this event… is to mingle, even though you really don’t want to. To the introverts, the struggle ‘to thrive in a networking event’ is real.
Before we the introverts beat ourselves too much over the stress with networking, we need to look inward and re-evaluate our strengths and weaknesses. Being an introvert doesn’t automatically translate to being shy and awkward – it just means that we thrive in a more intimate, quiet setting with fewer people. We dislike networking events because they are over-stimulating in many ways. With that in mind, here are a few things we should consider before heading to the next networking event:
Why am I going to the event?
This seems to be a silly question – you go to a networking event because you want to… network? But let’s go to the next level. Sometimes you are going to the event because someone you know has invited you. In that case, simply ask the inviter to help introduce you to a few other people in the room. Or head directly to your inviter when you get to the venue, because chances s/he is probably already surrounded by some other people that you don’t know. Viola!
If it is more a social event organized by a business association – then you should focus on being light. Exchange business cards and follow up after the event.
Bottom line is – we all perform much better if we can clearly articulate a purpose behind our actions to ourselves. Networking is no different. If you can’t give yourself a more elaborate reason to go to an event, you probably shouldn’t go.
Authenticity is the key to build long-lasting, beneficial relationships with others – both in personal and professional settings. Know what you can bring to the table – for instance, being a creative writer, passionate about indigenous issues, expert in juggling multiple large-scale projects etc. You might need to mentally rehearse those phrases a few times to yourself, so it comes naturally, but knowing it will help you stand out in the crowd because you are not ‘just another person who wants to network’. Introverts tend to be good listeners too, so it’s easier for us to make meaningful connections. Keep that in mind!
Focus on the quality, not the quantity
Keep an open-mind about going to those networking events – perks don’t just come right after the event. Just because you only met 3 people when the other person you know met 10 doesn’t mean that you are worse off. Go talk to a group of 5 rather than a group of 12. Approach strangers the same way as you approach a potential friend – remember you do have to like the other person before anything positive can happen!
Don’t feel pressurized to ‘work the room’ for the entire duration. An extended bathroom break or even just leave the venue for a short stroll is completely OK. That really helps manage the stimulation level for introverts.
Networking is like an exercise – it does get easier over time. Eventually you will figure out your own way to do it well.
One of the hardest things to remember to do is to just BE. Our busy schedules become our rulers, our accomplishments become our badges of honour, our lives become synonymous with productivity and efficiency... Our lives become one version of the infinity that they could be.
Enhance Your Life Through Self-Reflection - Here Is How You Start
When is the last time that you sat down to reflect? No media, no distractions - just you, yourself and maybe a piece of brainstorming paper.
Research shows that without the process of reflection (actively thinking about and challenging thinking patterns about what we encounter), learning does not occur either. While experiences may be entertaining in the short term, they may leave more to be desired for the long-term. More importantly, every experience (with a few exceptions probably) can be an opportunity for learning - and reflection might just be the path to it.
At first, reflection sounds so simple; the act of thinking about doing it almost feels enough to replace the actual act of it. Reflection can also seem daunting - it can feel like another thing to add onto the ever-growing list of things to do. Of course, reflection can also be overwhelming - there are several kinds, ways, processes for it and a novice may not know where to start.
We've compiled a couple resources that may help you on your reflection journey - from where to start to how to maintain it, these are just some of our favourites:
- the tools and resources in this link provide you with frameworks to reflect on your current and ideal self, helping you assess, analyze and navigate between these two realities
- tools and techniques to help you keep track of and store your learning moments and reflections
These should be more than enough to get you started with the practice of reflection. Happy reading and happy reflecting!
What An Iconic Thought Experiment (& The Woman Behind It) Can Teach Us About The Way We Work
The second teeny peek into The Happiness Advantage (see the first peek here) takes us face-to-face with one of Achor's mentors and her brilliant science experiment done in 1981. This experiment, though interesting in its own right, also acts as an example to support an important lesson: we have the power to change what is possible.
The mystery woman is Ellen Langer, a social psychologist who organized for a group of 75-year old men to live in a time capsule of sorts. The men were given specific instructions of where to meet and what not to bring - namely, they could not bring any materials that were older than the year 1959. Upon their arrival at the set place, the men were oriented. For a week, the space emulated the year 1959, hosting objects & news pieces that dated back to that year, and a group of men instructed.
to psychologically inhabit who they were 22 years earlier, at 55 years old
Even just one week of pretending to be younger actually had significant effects on these men - particularly, on their aging. When compared to control groups, these men tested better on measures of dexterity and physical appearance.
It became very clear that there was significant power within each human being to affect one's reality.
If you’re interested in hearing more about the experiment & the woman behind it all, check out
Ellen Langer's interview with Krista Tippett, where she talks about her studies, her beliefs and this experiment in more depth.
Why Should You Care?
The point is, the moment we begin to accept something as our reality, we MAKE our reality into just that... If there's one thing that Achor & Langer bring to our attention, it's this:
"our mindset, and in turn our experience of the world, is never set in stone" - (Achor in The Happiness Advantage)
Whether or not you become one of the greatest successes in your industry, or a gigantic failure, is heavily dependant upon the belief that you have in yourself, and the follow-through (or lack there-of) towards big, harry, audacious goals.
What will you make into your reality? Ultimately, and without disregarding external forces, this is your choice.
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How to Differentiate Your Small Business & Stay Relevant
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The 6 Biggest Goal Setting Mistakes You Can Easily Avoid
Goal setting is an integral part of life. It helps shape both one's professional world and personal development sphere. This post is a quick and easy guide to great goal setting, providing you with practical takeaways and tips! Read more >>